The Spirit Of The Good Looking Man

Our Enemy , Ourselves


When my first husband and I broke up, I had a dream. I dreamed that I was in a restaurant with a bunch of friends including my then husband. Then a good looking man came into the room and the next thing I knew everyone else left except for the “good looking man” and me. The next thing I heard was this “good looking man” telling me everything that was wrong with me. He also told me that every fear that I had about myself was true. I was a total mess, I had nothing to offer. I was a complete and utter failure as a human being.

After I awoke from the dream, I realized that the “good looking man” was a spirit. I began to see that spirit in other men around me. The man would look desirable on the surface, but underneath, that spirit as overly critical. and left me feeling like I didn’t deserve to live.

Then about fourteen years later,  I married my second husband. At first I thought that he did not have that spirit, but over time I have learned that he was influenced by that spirit more than anyone else. Our whole relationship seemed to be about showing me how worthless he felt that I was. I was never good enough.

I could go on and on berating him, but in truth, the problem isn’t his. It is mine. I have listened and accepted what he said as truth, but it isn’t the truth. Its a lie that I do not have to accept. I am good enough. The truth is, I am an exceptional human being because  I am a child of The Most High God. The truth is not about any specific thing that I have done. It is about who I am in Christ.

As A Roaring Lion

lion devouring

Each of us have a similar spirit that comes against us trying to tell us that tells us that God doesn’t care about us. He has doing that since he tempted Eve in the Garden of Eden. In Genesis 3:1 the Serpent asked Eve, “Has God said, ‘you shall not eat of every tree of the garden?’

From that day onward, the devil has been telling us either that God does not exist, or that God doesn’t care about us or that God is angry with us. All of those things are lies that separate us from the one who loves us most.

I Peter 5:8 tells us “Be sober, be vigilant: because the adversary the devil as a roaring lion walks about, seeking whom he may devour.””

The enemy searches us out, looking for our weaknesses and exploits them to the point that he is able to devour us. The only way that he can devour us is by getting into our minds and convincing us that what is a lie is actually the truth. We have to be on our guard and remember that God cares for us.

In John 10:10 Jesus says, “The thief comes for to steal and to kill and to destroy. I am come that they might have life and that they might have it more abundantly.”

The idea that “I am worthless to everyone including God” is the enemy’s attempt to stop the Body of Christ  from doing the great commission that Christ gave us in Mark 16:15: “Go you into all the world and preach the gospel to every creature. He that believeth and is baptized shall be save; but he that believeth not shall be damned.”

Resisting The Devil

It t is, therefore, important to remember that we are, in fact, in a war against this spiritual being. We need to understand that as it says Ephesians 6:11-17 that we need to take on the whole armor of God including the truth in order to stand against the lies of the devil.

James 4:7 tells us that must resist the devil. To accomplish thisl, I must first submit to God. I have to recognize that he wants the best for me. He will “never leave me nor forsake me (Hebrews 13:5). God loved me enough to send his son to take my place in judgement. (John 3:16-17). Therefore, I am lovable and capable of good works because God says that I am.


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Cygnet Brown now has a new look! (Photo by Joyce Bohm Photography)


Donna Brown is an ordained minister. As Author Cygnet Brown, she  has recently published her first nonfiction book: Simply Vegetable Gardening: Simple Organic Gardening Tips for the Beginning Gardener

She is also the author of historical fiction series The Locket Saga. which includes When God Turned His Head and Soldiers Don’t Cry, the Locket Saga Continues. Her upcoming book A Coward’s Solace will be available soon. Click here for more information about Cygnet Brown and her books.

  1. Donna, I can’t imagine having a loved one make you feel worthless. I’ve never experienced that. I’ve spent far too much time telling myself that message without anyone else’s help….but those days are gone, my friend, and today we both soar.

  2. 1authorcygnetbrown said:

    Yes, those days are gone. We both are valued very much by our creator. I sometimes still hear the voice that suggests that I have little value, however, I know that voice is not my own but the voice of a liar which that knowledge in itself gives me the power to know that I am much more valuable than I realize.

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