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What should I do now?

What should I do now?

As you probably noticed, my post for Monday and Last Friday were the same. I had the day scheduled, but I neglected to put anything on it besides my signature information at the end of the post. Not that it was such a bad think. I actually had someone share it on his Facebook page.

No Excuses

I could easily make up an excuse for dropping the ball. I have a lot of them. I could also say that I should just let the blog go for a while, but I am not going to do that. Today I am picking the ball back up and continuing with this blog.

Why I Dropped The Ball

When we drop the ball, it is always a good idea to understand exactly what happened and why. The truth was, I actually forgot on both Friday and Monday to write the posts. There is a difference between understanding why and making an excuse. An excuse is a way for a person to find a way to quit. I am not quitting.

This month my goal and affirmation is to be a proficient writer and I certainly am. I dropped just two blog posts since the first of the year. In addition, I have to go into town in order to post my blog posts. i live 12 miles from town. In addition, to writing this week, I have been running all over creation for things to fix up my trailer. I got my air conditioner in Monday night. With temperatures running in the mid-nineties and high humidity, a good air conditioner is a necessity.

Finally, my daughter is visiting me and we have been doing things together including visiting friends, going out to dinner, and going to the river. This week she is helping me paint the cabinets in my trailer.

Getting Back On Track

So today, it is time to get back on track. So how do I prevent this from happening again in the future?

The obvious answer is that I must not over-commit to so many things in one week. Over-commitment is the number one reason for anyone to forget to do something.

Another answer is to make and keep a schedule. Since moving I have not been keeping a schedule. Over the weekend, I started working on one.

Becoming more organized again is another answer. There are a number of things that I will need to do to make my life more organized, but certain aspects of organizing  the trailer are going to take some additional time including getting internet in my home.

Over the next several weeks, I will continue to write (the second draft on Book Four of the Locket Saga: Sailing Under The Shadow of the Black Flag is still right on track.), work on my trailer, and keep up with my other writing projects including keeping up with this blog.

 

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Donna Brown is an ordained minister. As Author Cygnet Brown, she  has recently published her first nonfiction book: Simply Vegetable Gardening: Simple Organic Gardening Tips for the Beginning Gardener

She is also the author of historical fiction series The Locket Saga. which includes When God Turned His Head and Soldiers Don’t Cry, the Locket Saga Continues. Her upcoming book A Coward’s Solace will be available soon. Click here for more information about Cygnet Brown and her books.


Don’t Think Of A Pink Elephant!

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If I told you don’t think about an elephant with a top hat, I will bet that right now you are thinking about an elephant with a top hat. This is evidence that  we resist, really does persist!.

What We Resist Persists

Someone once said that our unconscious minds cannot discern the meaning of the concept of not. I tend to believe that is true. This reinforces the success principle: Where you focus your energy, focuses your attention.

What you resist persists because that is where your focus lies. Rather than looking at what you don’t want to do, look at what you want to do!
One effective way to keep from thinking negative thoughts is by focusing your attention on a mantra to help you focus on your goal. The mantra that I am using is “I can do this and I know I can. Whatever you chose to repeat over and over needs to be in the present tense (I am). My monthly affirmations are a form of mantra. This month is “I am a prolific writer”.

Therefore, I have a system that gets me enthusiastic about the goals that I have for the day. Before I begin each session,  i set a timer and repeat over and over the words, “I can do this, and I know I can” over and over for five minutes. I focus on my breathing, the mantra, and that I am calm and confident. After the five minutes is up, I begin writing. I do it the same time every day and don’t quit until I have at least one thousand words on my novel. Later at the library,  I determine which bubblew or blog post that I need to write and I work on it until I am done.

If I had however, focused on the fact that I have a lot to do, I doubt I would get any of it done. I would start making excuses concerning why I cannot get it done. As you can see however, I am not doing that. I am reaching my daily, weekly, and monthly goals. In just over six months I will have also completed my annual goals because I am not focusing on negative aspects of my goals.

Don’t Hang Onto Bad Relationships

I saw my estranged husband the other day and I told him about speaking in front of an audience the other day. He tried to take credit saying that what he had been saying to me had finally sunk in. i have no idea where he thought that he had anything to do with the positive place where I am now. I always felt that he was the one who kept me from reaching for my goals. I felt as though he thought that my goals were not worthy to attempt. I felt as though any time that I wanted to do something, he made it all the more difficult to do it because he stressed my inabilities rather than my abilities.

I told him that I realized that neither of us were good for the other and that we were stuck in that relationship for too long. Staying too long in a relationship that does not serve either party is definitely something that someone should not do.

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Donna Brown is an ordained minister. As Author Cygnet Brown, she  has recently published her first nonfiction book: Simply Vegetable Gardening: Simple Organic Gardening Tips for the Beginning Gardener

She is also the author of historical fiction series The Locket Saga. which includes When God Turned His Head and Soldiers Don’t Cry, the Locket Saga Continues. Her upcoming book A Coward’s Solace will be available soon. Click here for more information about Cygnet Brown and her books.


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This is my son Jonathan as a baby.

 

Jonathan,  my middle child, messaged me on Facebook a couple weeks ago that he was going to be home from Hawaii where he is a Chinese Linguist for the United States Air Force. I have not seen him in about two years so I was excited that he was coming home. Not that he was going to be staying at my house. He is a lot like I was when I was younger and in the military, he wants to spend most of his time with his friends, not with his family. Because I was like that when I was his age, I completely understand. Family is, well, family and they will always be there for you when you’re ready.

As his mother, however, who has gone through the recent loss of her father, sister, and brother, I know, however, that family is far more precious than we realize. Even though I understand that he does not want to spend all of his week’s vacation with his family, he needs to spend some time with us, so I arranged for his younger sister and his older brother and his girlfriend spend time together.

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This is him all grown up! Where has the time gone?

 

The problem is logistical. Time is an issue. I work twelve hour shifts on Friday, Saturday and Sunday from eight to eight. My daughter lives over 120 from where I live and she goes to school during the day. My son Jeremy is a logger so if the sun is shining he’s out in the logging woods so he cannot take the amount of time off work to go to where my daughter lives.

Of course, me being Mom, I decided I would figure a way to make it happen. I decided that we would have dinner not at my house, but at a nice restaurant.This way, I could spend time with all my children rather than spending my time cooking before and cleaning up the mess afterwards. I talked to each of my children and asked them which day would be best. Because my daughter was taking part in cheer leading try-outs, the only day she had available was Tuesday. I talked to my sons and they were good with that. The next hurdle I had to go over was getting my daughter’s father’s okay to take her from school and take her 120 miles away from home on a school night. After making the promise to have her back home and in bed by ten, we had everyone on board to have dinner with their mother.

Because my truck can only hold two passengers, I borrowed a rental car so that I would have enough room for my son Jonathan and my daughter to spend some time conversing with one another on the two hour trip taking my daughter back home.

We Had a Great Time

When I picked up my daughter I predicted that her older brother would be late showing up, and that even though it was my idea that we get together, both of her brothers would try to pick up the tab. Sure enough both things happened.

My sons did not seem to compete against one another in other ways however, which I think was very admirable of them. Jonathan picked up the check and Jeremy paid the tip. Jonathan told me that he did not realize how much he and Jeremy had in common, and that he was glad to see him. Mind you, both have different philosophies in life, but both have an ethical connection to hard work. They have agreed to get together again today (Thursday) and that Jeremy would show Jonathan around. (Basically, he wants to show him his accomplishments.)

Committing to Writing Every Day

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As a writer, finding time to write is like that. Just as I had to take every other commitment into consideration for this get together, a writer needs to take into consideration every daily commitment before committing to writing time. As you make the commitment to write on a daily basis, other things often have to take a backseat to writing time. There are only 24 hours in a day, and we cannot do everything we want to do every day. We have to determine how important that activity is. For me, a get together with my children was important than writing, so I sacrificed and got all of my children in one place at the same time. However, writing is also important to me, so I learned to resent time taken away from my writing time. If I don’ get time to write every day, I get like a baby who hasn’t had a bottle for a while. I get a little cranky.

 

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Cygnet Brown has recently published her first nonfiction book: Simply Vegetable Gardening: Simple Organic Gardening Tips for the Beginning Gardener

She is also the author of historical fiction series The Locket Saga. Her upcoming book A Coward’s Solace will be available soon. Click here for more information about Cygnet Brown and her books.

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